Andy Bojarski ~ My Higher Self: How to Master the Toughest Relationships

http://awakeningtohigherlove.com

Thank you to my beautiful friends Lakshmi Bhatia and Master Sai Baba for co-creating and inspiring me to write this posting. This so resonated with me and has helped me completely understand all of my relationships and has given me internal peace. I hope it helps all of you. I am sending all of you my love and many blessings…
Many souls are now awakening. They are seeing a change in their energies and consciousness levels. A lot of people are having relationship issues with their loved ones. One of the most challenging parts of your journey is that when this awakening starts for you, it has this remarkable ability to completely shift your most personal and intimate relationships.

This especially includes the relationships with your parents, your spouses, your boyfriends and girlfriends, your children and your siblings and close family members. How do you cope with these changes when the ones close to you are judging and criticizing you and do not understand you as they are not yet awakened?

You have been on this journey for many lifetimes. So how do you handle these intimate shifts in your personal relationships? How do you cope when your energy and consciousness rises and everyone else’s stays the same? What do you do when you no longer resonate on their lower energy level?

Please understand that you need to be centered and grounded and be at peace knowing that all is working out perfectly and nothing in your life is a miss and it is exactly as it is meant to be. Remember that you would not be who you are at this moment in your life if you did not have all these people in your life playing the parts they have played and are continuing to play. Each of these people are playing a part in your life. All is perfect.

The secret to transforming these tough relationships is to fully understand and accept that you are in the presence of master souls – these are the people in your life that you are having difficulties with. Yes, they are master souls. This may be hard to accept for you. You may think, how can this abusive, hurtful, mean person be a master soul who is hurting me?  Yea right, sure they are a master soul.  But it is true.   

These souls could include the difficult, judging, and criticizing father or the abusive husband or the loving mother. Understand that when you chose to come back to this planet in a physical body, you wrote the script of your entire life. You decided what you wanted to experience. And then you invited your closest soul members to come and play different lives, and different difficult learning parts in your lives.

One soul plays the part of our nurturing and loving mother while others are the spontaneous and beautiful angelic children, others are angry judging and abusive family members, etc… you have invited all these master soul beings to come into your lives, who may be now very critical and judgmental or non-supportive.

So you have asked all these beautiful master souls to play different roles for you in this lifetime so that you can learn all those lessons that you have to learn – who you want to be, how to learn to be compassionate, to learn not to be judgmental because you know what it feels like to be judged, etc…

Each of these people are mirroring back to you all of those lessons that you need to learn about yourself. It’s only by learning to see this and knowing this that they are NOT the roles that they are playing and that they are only playing the script that you have written to better yourself in your learning and growth.

When you see this, and when you can accept this, you will see them for who they really are; the beautiful loving souls that have agreed to help you grow and learn these lessons. This will totally transform your relationship with them when you see this. You will then feel so much love and compassion for them as they are powerful master souls who love you so much to do this for you.

After you attain a certain level of mastery, you then become souls that help others to continue on their journey.  You are probably one of these souls right now.  You help each other this way as we are all One.  And in some of those roles you take on the not so nice roles. This is the greatest gift that you are given by these master souls because they have chosen to also be judged and criticized in this lifetime by others.

They may have chosen to not have people that understand them or have emotional confusions which may keep people at a distance from them. Or they have chosen to do things that make people not like them so much. When you see this, know that this is such a gift they are giving you as they love you so much to want to do this for you. When you realize this, it will completely shift the energies in this space for you with respect to them.

When you see this, there will be so much love that will flow between you. This is the point of understanding that their soul had a contract with your soul. When you reach this moment of understanding, your contract role with them is done as that soul contract is fulfilled. Understand this important fact:

Whenever there is drama in any area of your life, it is because your learning is incomplete. The moment your learning is complete, the drama will automatically cease.

From a higher perspective, all of this is the human drama with this veil of illusion you are in. When you are engaged in drama, you are continued to be ruled by the law of karma of cause and effect. When you rise above the zone of drama, then you are no longer bound by the rules of karma of cause and effect.

When you are engaged in drama, you are continuing to create and receive karma but when you understand this and you rise above this, you are no longer bound by any of these rules. So do not operate from the state of being a victim and being powerless. Do not judge and feel that your life is not perfect.

If there is anything that is disturbing you in your life, it is only because your learning is not yet complete. So look at every person and relationship in your life that is bothering you. Ask what is it that you are meant to learn more of.  Accepting people for who they are and continuing to send love and healing is a lesson.

Things will then start to shift and change for you when you realizing this. Watch as people become nicer to you and more relaxed around you. These tough people in your lives are master souls who are playing these really difficult roles in these lifetimes. When you see this, you will learn what you have come to learn with them and the energies in that space will completely shift.

And then you will be ok with that person. Remember, these people are playing the parts they are meant to play in your life. Love and respect them without any expectations. These powerful master souls can play so many different roles in your life. When you see these beings for who they are, and not the roles they are playing, you will come into a deep space of love and gratitude for them.

Tell them that you are really sorry for what you have done to them consciously or unconsciously because you know who they are now, these master souls. Thank them for being in your life. State your truth. You are here to learn the lesson of unconditional love. Lose your fears of losing the people you love because each of you are making a choice to hold a space of unconditional love for them.

There is no loss. And they at a soul level can make whatever choice they need to. So hold each of these people in love. Choose unconditional love over drama or turmoil. Allow them to make their choice as well. Many of you go through on this journey and it is not easy. Your spiritual journey is one of your toughest journeys and as you grow in light.  It will be the people closest to you who will not be able to take your shining light.

You become like a lamppost and if you are a lamppost on the road, it is the area under the lamppost which is always in darkness. Know that it is the people closest to you who will not be able to see your light. This is why your greatest challenges are with the people that are closest to you, the ones in your life.

So choose not to engage in drama and if people have anger, look at them and see them for the love that they are and love them for who they are and you do not engage in this drama as this is not your drama. Have this mental conversation with yourself and they will stop as ego cannot fight without the fight of another ego.

Continue to stay centered and the storm will pass. You lose your center when you feel like you need to explain yourself, defend yourself, and judging the situation on yourself, and you will have the same patterns of drama continue and karma will flow as your lesson is not yet learned. Avoid this. Hold the space of love, the unconditional and non-judgmental space.

So be aware of people that are master souls wearing different master caps depending on what you need to learn on your journey who will keep mirroring this same lesson back to you until you finally learn it.  Be in awe of all of this that is being taught to you by these people – no longer in fear, no longer in pain, no longer in hurt. See this from your spiritual space even though they may not see it.

This will bring you internal peace. Talk to your plants, the angels, the guides and masters and animals if need be about this, if you have nobody to talk to who understands you. This will keep you in a positive and balanced space. The human challenge is the most difficult for you because in the higher Divine space, you are accepted, loved, and guided.

And it is in the human space that you are constantly challenged. But this is the contract you chose. And it is perfect exactly the way it is. So detach from every role and every drama that is there in your life. If there are roles or situations that are acting out, immediately step into your space where this is not your drama and do not engage in it.

If this is happening in your life, then there is something more you have to see. What is it that you have to see in this particular situation? Maybe you need to send more healing to these people. Maybe you need to continue to mirror unconditional love to them. Maybe you need to hold them in love and compassion.

Maybe you need to work on cutting the karmic ties between you and that person. It is not your role to worry about anybody else’s karma. It is for you to completely go into that space of forgiveness and understanding and love and seeing that all is perfect, and that all is love. So learn your lessons and learn to love everyone unconditionally. As love is all there is and you are Love.

Andy

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